This year, my birthday was a special one.
First of all, my college-aged son “surprised” me with a visit (well unlike last year’s “surprise visit”, my son couldn’t hold in his intended surprise visit and told me in advance).
And, I adopted a new Golden Retriever puppy whom I named Charli. Charli came home with me at 10 weeks old on my birthday.
Charli is now my third Golden. The pattern illustrates that I wait six months between each of my dogs (Barney, Benji and now Charli) - from the last one’s passing to their adoption/homecoming of the newest pup. You may remember that my beloved Benji passed away in February.
It has been a whirlwind of adjustments for me – from a “bachelorette” lifestyle of late night salsa dancing and finally being able to enjoy solitude and freedom with no kids around (my two young adult children were away all summer), no responsibilities, and a new lease on life since my separation.
…to a lifestyle that’s akin to having a newborn! But, this time I am an empty nester single parent. The birth and adoption of Charli entails adjustments as well as welcoming a bit of chaos and routine into my life.
Charli is extremely smart, curious and has a calm disposition, at least initially. However, I need to contain his exuberant energy! Perhaps he feeds off mine!?
Now that I’ve had precious Charli with me for 2 1/2 months, here are are a few ideas I’ve reflected on and would like to share with you:
It’s like Benji’s spirit has come back through my new puppy Charli. He is a true gift bringing joy, companionship, connection and unconditional love. And, a breath of fresh air who has brought new life and light into my previously quiet, somber home.
Even though they are from different breeders (Barney and Benji were from the same breeder in Canada), they all look alike. Admittedly, I intentionally picked a pup with a similar light color fur coat and look.
I find myself often calling Charli “Benji” and I feel awful about that. But, unlike Benji who “failed” his pet therapy exam twice, Charli is destined to become a therapy dog. That’s my plan – but of course we both need lots of training.
Goldens are innately beautiful souls. From their funny personalities to their friendly and confident demeanor to their expressive eyes and gorgeous golden coat, people are naturally drawn to this breed.
What might look like chaos and mess, can be re-thought of as training (for both human and animal) and development!
Lesson for Readers: Focus on the positive wherever possible…sure life can be messy but it doesn’t have to be perfect. Embrace mess and chaos. Take joy in the little things. Mourn those who are lost to us but move on with intention, gratitude and purpose.
Indeed, as I move through this new phase with adult children and a new puppy, I want to help you discover the “new” in your life too and appreciate how you can see “loss” in a new light and leverage it for opportunities and a new lease on life.
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